The lie that trips marriages up (You're responsible for me!)
Happy People make Happy Couples
Happy people all have something in common. It’s not that they’re all rich, thin, successful, good-looking, or famous. Nor is it that they’re the ones with the fastest cars, the best toys, the routine spa days, or the best bodies. They don’t have the biggest houses or experience the most exotic vacations. They didn’t win the lottery or marry the perfect spouse. They don’t have the most important job, the most Facebook likes, the best YouTube channel, or the best-behaved children. Honestly, we don’t need to have any of these things to be happy.
Happy People know God as their Source
God has made us with a capacity for happiness. It is the core of who we are. God actually provides the way to happiness. To resist God is to resist happiness. Loving God and letting Him love us are the most important things we can do. When we experience God’s love every day, it combats everything that will rob us of peace. When we know we’re loved, we’re able to love others. The experience of God’s love expels all fear, worry, and anxiety. When we value God’s approval more than what people think, we don’t expect others to be our everything but are at peace with our life and our season.
The quality of our relationships can never exceed our personal wholeness, and our personal wholeness is the direct fruit of our accepting and experiencing God’s limitless love.
Are you ready to be happy in your relationship?
You don’t have to wait for the other person. And here are some practical things you can do today:
Compliment: As your spouse is talking to you, don’t think about what they’re saying wrong, or how you have something better to say, as you’re listening, think about a compliment that you can give them!
Show Empathy: Actually put yourself in their shoes - what they’re facing, and what challenges them. Love them in a way that lands for them.
Partner up: Remember you’re on the same team. Your spouse is not your problem, so you can stop fixating on that. Join together and combat your challenges and stresses with agreement and comradery.
Last and more important…
Don’t dwell on disappointments and expect your spouse to be your source for anything. They can be your #1 contributor, but will never be enough to be your complete source. That’s your personal responsibility! When you’re satisfied you can’t help but be a giver! God is your source in being completely satisfied.
Your future is full of love, joy, and celebration. And to think - you don’t have to wait for anyone around you to change!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 34 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.