What's motivating your communication?
Conquering relationship issues and destructive cycles take courage and even hard work. But the reward is beyond amazing!
Communication breakdown is usually subconscious and the result of poor habits developed over time. In working to understand our own communication dynamics, and by watching countless couples, families, and co-workers struggle through miscommunication, we have found the solutions to be the same regardless of the uniqueness of the situation.
Discovering our GOAL in communication is probably one of our biggest breakthroughs as a couple and a family.
Even though we had read countless books and studies on the topic of communication, we wanted to get to the heart of the matter. Sure, we understand that we have different styles and personalities, but what is the motivation behind our communication? Why are we so determined to get our point across? Why do some people in our family have (it seems like) zero tolerance for certain conversations?
The best inventions are created out of desperation, and that’s exactly what happened with us. We invented Communication Goals and it helped us so much, we decided to write a free ebook for anyone who wanted in on the discovery. Since then, thousands upon thousands of people have downloaded this practical and simple book.
You are about to feel highly understood by honing in on your most important communication goal. Let’s jump right in. You have a goal – something you need and want, and you are attempting to accomplish this goal whenever you communicate. You want to feel:
Liked
Right
In control
Safe
Maybe you have read our ebook and you already know the order of your goals. Maybe this is your first introduction to this concept! Either way, as you look at those four goals, ask yourself, which one do I want the very most? You may think, well I love to feel all of those things, but you are actually wired to want one of them more than all the others. It’s part of your design.
Knowing your own communication goal is a great big invitation to the potential to be the best version of yourself. By improving your skills in understanding yourself you will begin to better understand others. Dreams for a happy family and great friendships are too important to leave up to chance.
In relationships, we are always at a point of choice. When you make a decision to take responsibility for your part in any relationship, always remember this one key question to ask yourself: Do I want to win and prove my point, or do I want to develop a deeper connection and grow closer to him/her?
Welcome to new levels of enjoying those around you! This is a brief introduction of an entire concept we call My Communication Goals. Download the free ebook here. Enjoy the next several podcasts as we dive into the heart behind communication. You about to feel highly loved and understood!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 29 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.