Stop beating yourself up
I want to learn to be good at being loving, kind, and patient, but I find myself belittling my spouse.
I want to live without regrets but I am suspicious and question my husband constantly.
I want to be in a marriage that works that I am failing.
I don’t want to be a problem but I am the common denominator in two failed marriages.
I can’t seem to learn my lessons because I am lost and nothing seems to change.
Forgiveness from your failures
Your outside circumstances are a reflection of what’s going on in your heart, thoughts, and beliefs.
Our life is the outcome of all the choices we have been making until this point. It starts with our feelings of hurt and pain that turn into the thoughts we think about all day. After focusing on the negative stories we tell ourselves, we start talking about it out loud to the people in our life. The next thing happens, and we start making decisions based on this negativity and treat ourselves and others without mercy or gratitude. The result? The life we are presently experiencing.
We want to help you. And positive thinking isn’t enough.
There have been decades of controversy surrounding positive thinking. It is both clinically and biblically proven that having a positive and hopeful approach is the best way to live! But there are many obvious pieces of the puzzle left out. Firstly, positive affirmations only work for about 15% of people. The rest of the people don’t believe that what they are saying is true, so they are just lying to themselves, and disconnecting with their own heart beliefs.
Becoming our own worst enemies affects our relationships!
We don’t manage our expectations
We fail to appreciate the small things
We take too much for granted
We are our own worst critic
We overanalyze
We prefer the easy way
We assume
We doubt ourselves
Our thoughts direct our life! Believe what others say about you? Then you repeat that over and over in your head. How you see yourself will guide your expectations, both good and bad. And it’s more than just a positive affirmation, it’s based on the truth of what God says about you. Writing the truth of who you are - in your heart establishes your value, dignity, and worth.
You get to continue every day on your amazing path, even if those around you are not. Others may not notice immediately, but your family and close friends are going to eventually wonder what has happened to you! (in a good way). They have their journey, so don’t force your newfound approach on them, or even talk about it (unless they ask). Instead, treat the ones around you with patience, kindness, and mercy. It will get easier and easier. You can’t control the outcome of what will happen with their choices, but you can choose wisely and enjoy peace and joy.
Have patience? Yes. Be passive? No.
The inner journey is a lifelong path, but you will begin to feel changes in your heart and sensitivity to noticing abundance, provision, and the whisper of God.
Hear more about this topic on Episode 56 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.