Respond-ability Part 2: Perfect Conditions
When we are satisfied and secure, we are set up for the best odds at responding well.
It’s logical: when there are a lot of conditions that feel good, it’s natural to feel good. However, when there are conditions that don’t feel good, we don’t feel as good. What if: Even under these conditions, you have an awareness of the thoughts you are thinking you choose a higher satisfaction factor!
Good conditions are experienced and it’s easy to feel good. Bad conditions cause us to feel bad. However…what if we have practice being satisfied and secure? Suddenly we are more likely to find satisfaction in both good and “not so good” conditions. Let’s get better at catching our negative feelings and reactions in the early subtle stages.
Hear the reasoning: A thought that has been thought about long enough has matured, and it’s turned into something almost tangible, that you can hear, smell, taste, and touch. It becomes your reality and your story. Those realities are more difficult to choose around….because of the sheer length of investment and focus! But there is always a choice to come in agreement with God’s very best when it comes to your thoughts.
If you’ve practiced (just for the sake of feeling) righteousness, joy, and peace just because it’s our Kingdom inheritance, and if you’ve practiced this even when there isn’t as much to thankful for, during times of good and bad, wanted and unwanted, now you’re in the driver’s seat in every condition. Now you can find more satisfaction SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU HAVE PRACTICED AND DEVELOPED this as a skill.
Everywhere we turn, people from all walks of life are experiencing what seems to be insurmountable challenges in their lives. They are striving to alleviate the pain created by these challenges, and searching for relief!
We have had challenges as well, and through our decades of gleaning wisdom through knowledge and understanding, as well as the lessons of our own lives, we have moved towards more and more personal responsibility and that naturally results in respond-ability.
The journey is ongoing, but the more we feel super close to God, who is continually and daily seeking to benefit our lives with His wonder and goodness, the more He strengthens us with His joy and His amazing perspective in seeing life as a priceless gift.
OUTSIDE AND INSIDE CONDITIONS
It’s important to differentiate between outside and inside conditions. Your tangible exterior conditions could be good or bad, but your respond-ability is much more susceptible to your inside condition.
By taking responsibility and developing respond-ability, we have been able to alleviate about 90% of the negativity and erroneous programming in our lives, which are our limiting heart beliefs, which have given us the gifts of calmness, serenity, love, contentment, peace, and joy. This is our inside internal condition.
At the core of every bad reaction, there is fear. Knowing this, we have the opportunity to invite unconditional love (from God) into our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.
Feelings are very powerful because they are fuel.
If you’re prepared to be accountable for your feelings, that come from your thoughts, then your attitudes and respond-ability will follow suit. At the very root of our ability to respond are our heart beliefs. These come from your first introductions or any painful trauma in your life. God will love you in your painful memories, and get once you’re loved, you no longer have fear.
As you allow Jesus to love you in your memories, you’ll come to a deeper understanding of who you are, and your journey within your relationships will become exciting and fulfilling.
Some could call this contentment, an even better description is satisfied. We love to call this state of reality righteousness because that means ultimate alignment, agreement with God’s opinion and perspective, and faith that there is always another way to “see this' '.
When you get to this level of respond-ability, oh-whoa-oh-whoa-oh. When you find a way to be less conditional about the way you feel, you’re home free! Now you can find satisfaction in all conditions and that feeling of joy and peace can grow and grow and grow in a matter of minutes, you can gather enough momentum your invincibility will follow you wherever you go!
Now people that used to yank your chain or push your buttons, or pull your trigger, find you less reactive! Because you are no longer reacting to conditions, the negative momentum doesn’t get strong enough to invoke your reaction. Instead, you’re surprisingly delightful!
Remember: Your satisfaction and security are not contingent on your conditions. You are becoming an expert at respond-ability!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 125 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.