Respond-ability #3: Run Your World!
When you embrace your authority to run your world, you are unstoppable and invincible. Let’s talk about four practical ways to do this:
#1: Develop your heart beliefs to agree with everything God and everything heaven on earth.
Our lives are controlled by our beliefs, which result in feelings, which fuel our thoughts and actions, and establish our habits. If you're in pain, it makes you self-focused. If you are satisfied and find your pleasure and fulfillment in life, you automatically give to others and respond well.
Everything you have today is the sum total of what you have believed up to this moment.
#2: Know your needs and get them met
When it comes to increasing respond-ability, we have to understand three important needs you have. When your needs are met, you are set up for extreme success in every relationship you are in. We have basic needs: love, acceptance, and recognition.
It’s easy to let our culture determine whether we do or don't have our needs met. We live, eat, breathe and survive in our culture! The culture of our city, our country, and our family culture are influencing us and sucking us into their values and survival techniques. What if, getting your needs met is actually possible with GOD as your source?
Our culture also screams to us, telling us what is most important. The western culture where I’ve grown up in North America seems to approach life as a big competition or race to see who can get the most, be the best, and have the biggest. Anything to get gain is the general rule in the world today. And we feel best if we feel in control of our destiny.
So, we set goals, develop plans and follow dreams to feel like we are winning in this game of life. All of this to make sure we are satisfying our basic needs. To feel love, acceptance, and recognition. We hope, we try, we strive and if we took a poll, my guess is that most aren’t feeling super fulfilled or super satisfied about winning in life. Do you feel like you’re rocking your days, figuring out your meaning for life, and succeeding at health, wealth, and relationships? Most would say that’s a stretch.
That’s when we put pressure on our loved ones. Sometimes it’s spoken, but most of the time it’s subconscious. Deep down we feel like our loved ones could help to make us feel loved and accepted. After all, isn’t that what love does? Well, yes, but it’s not their ultimate responsibility That’s where you get to take control of your life. You run your world. And there’s nothing better.
#3: Understand the two laws and the one myth when it comes to running your world
The law of the seed simply says that we feel good about ourselves to the exact degree to which take responsibility for our own life.
On the opposite spectrum, we feel bad about ourselves to the exact degree to which we feel we are controlled by outer circumstances, by other people that are beyond our control.
The feeling of steering our own life brings us into harmony with ourselves. Feeling empowered starts with our feelings. WHAT we feel, and WHAT we feel controls our thoughts. What we think leads to how we perform which are our actions.
When we have control of our thoughts and feelings we will automatically be that genius responder. Our respond-ability heightens because we aren’t tossed to and fro with people’s words and actions! We aren’t moved or shaken by the weather, or the bank account, or the good or bad news that happens to be in our face.
THE MYTH OF ACCIDENT
This is the myth that most people abide by. By failing to bring intention to how they feel, and not even aware that they have a choice of how they will feel, they let life happen to them. And they live reactive as best they can, but feel insecure with no guarantees of a future or hope.
By thinking their circumstances and relationships are just happening, and they have no control, there are no goals to change the way they feel and think. By failing to plan they are planning to fail. By failing to choose and plan their feelings and thoughts ahead of time, they aren’t ready to be a good responder.
One of the main reasons there is so much negativity, disharmony in relationships, unhappiness, misery, and skepticism in our culture is that most people feel like bumper cars in a carnival! They go off in one direction, hoping for new beginnings and new results, but get turned around, bumped around, and now there’s no justice and it’s everyone else’s fault.
Living by the myth of accident will prevent you from enjoying fulfilling relationships. You’re stuck blaming others and frustrated beyond belief.
THE LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT
The law of cause and effect is the basic law of the universe. It’s the reason everything happens. It says, for every effect in your life, there is a specific cause.
If you're not enjoying the effects of your life or a specific relationship, it’s up to you to discover the cause and change the cause. There is a reason that everything is happening. There is no such thing as an accident. Everything that happens in our life happens by law and not by chance.
The people who live happy, fully functioning, harmonious lives are people who live by the law of the seed and understand the law of cause and effect. We reap what we sow in exact mathematical precision.
#4: DEVELOP YOUR FIVE FAVORITE EMOTIONS
Identify your top five - then bask in a memory of that emotion until it sticks.
It may be impossible to alleviate significant negative feelings, thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs in your life that have caused or are causing you to experience pain of any kind, but you can trade your feelings for your favorites.
Practice feeling good about life and relationships. If you wish your life was different in the future, or wish your relationships were different, it’s necessary to change your beliefs. Then your feelings, which then change your thinking. By doing this you change the direction of your life.
It’s interesting to meet people who don’t think they have strong feelings. Or those who don’t consider themselves “feelings-driven”. They may feel that their mind is too strong to care about feelings, or they puff up logic to supersede feelings. Having feelings is what sets us apart as human beings. The difference between us and robots is feelings. Feelings are the way we experience life.
Our shift in deciding to run our own lives, and come into agreement with God’s kingdom, which is righteousness, peace, and joy changes everything. Jesus could have described the kingdom using words like effective, strong, mighty, and powerful, but he chose one alignment word, and two feeling words, The kingdom is righteousness, which means “as it should be”. Perfectly aligned to God’s view and opinion, his way of seeing things, and then peace and joy! The ultimate feelings!
This shift to alignment to God’s kingdom, and his source inside of you, to come alongside you as you choose your feelings will have positive and far-reaching effects, not only on you but in the lives of everyone around you. You are a genius at responding!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 126 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.