Fourteen love investments

How’s your love life? Here are some simple indicators that you are enjoying security and joy in your relationship. We are convinced that it only takes one person to “tend to the garden” of your relationship to get things started. Why not start today? 

The Missing Piece

In our recent coaching and counseling sessions, we are seeing a pattern of cluttered thoughts and emotions that are affecting people’s everyday life, causing confusion and frustration. When you feel overwhelmed, it’s tempting to fixate and “zero in” on the one thing that’s missing.  

Have you ever worked on a jigsaw puzzle, persevered through hours of paying attention to every intricate detail, anticipating the feeling of placing that last final piece, only to find out that the final piece is missing? The anti-climax takes away the joy of the journey and it almost feels like the entire project was a waste of time. 

Our human nature compels us to focus on the one missing piece instead of the beauty of the entire puzzle. We have noticed this in our own “puzzle of life.” We can have so many great things in our lives to be thankful for, but instead, we fixate on the thing we don’t have. 

Even though we tend to focus on the missing piece, our life isn’t a puzzle that we have to try and figure out. Life is a gift – a journey through time with our Creator enjoying thriving relationships and friendship with God. A giant leap toward enjoying relationships is choosing to be content and realize that focusing on what’s missing is torture. 

You have everything you need because of what Jesus has done. He is pursuing you with an everlasting love that covers your weaknesses, which diminishes the feeling of lack in your life. Maybe you don’t have the perfect kids, perfect body, perfect house, or perfect job, but the One who loves you is perfect, and He lives His life through you.

Today we are going to focus on everything you have; everything you love about your life; everything you’re thankful for. Invite Jesus to help you to overcome any tendencies to compare and let the joy of the Lord fill your heart. 

We have compiled a list of fourteen simple investments you can make into your marriage. Decide to be the first one in the relationship to “plant these seeds” into the garden of your relationship. It may take time, and watering the seeds with attention, but you’ll be pleased with the long-term results.  

Fourteen love investments

  1. Public display of affection

  2. The kiss

  3. Talk not just text

  4. Being like-minded

  5. Share your news

  6. Be safe to disagree

  7. Encourage 

  8. Make eye contact

  9. “Can’t imagine any future without you”

  10. Tell each other your secrets

  11. Be yourself

  12. Laugh at the same jokes

  13. Enjoy good chemistry

  14. Make it work

You can have it all – the joy of fulfilling responsibility plus the freedom to belly laugh and rise above the circumstances. When you’re having fun, you are better at what you do and your zeal for life is contagious! 

Hear more about this topic on Episode 52 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.

Bob & Audrey Meisner