Brighten Up Your Relationships! Amplify Your Connection!
I Want Growth in Our Connection
Can we become too comfortable? Comfort and nurturing love are vital in every relationship, but on the other side of that spectrum, we all crave growth which is only ignited through new challenges. Places of comfort are where we find healing. Times of challenge and new opportunities stimulate progress.
Maybe you’ve been faithfully developing your sense of respond-ability, but you feel the need to upgrade your connectivity with that other person. It could be your friend, your adult children, your parents, or your spouse, but you have the desire to brighten and spruce up that bond.
Our desire for comfort can get us stuck in that zone of apathy which can even lead to mediocrity. So maybe you’re stuck in your comfort zone, or possibly you’re not comfortable with how comfortable “the other person” is in theirs!
As human beings, we are hardwired for both comfort and growth in our nervous system. There is a tension between “comfort zone” and fulfilling potential and each person is invited to personal growth. People will never rise above their own opinion of themselves, so there is no substitute for experiencing unconditional love that realigns to self-acceptance and receiving unconditional grace.
What are you willing to invest into your relationship dream? Your active effort to keep the passion and energy in your relationship is to be commended!
Here are some ideas we have when wanting to reignite and level up your connection. When you’re approaching that person with who you want to deepen your connection, instead of starting with the dread-filled statement “we need to talk” why not consider bringing up a fond or fun memory that you shared! Then consider this:
Keep the conversation short, even five to ten minutes tops. Don’t attack the person, but enjoy the memory you communicated, and then confess a weakness of how you contribute to stifling growth and passion.
Don’t beg for attention or demand a response. Give them freedom and space to contemplate their own heart. Freedom can trigger closeness! Believe the best in the other person!
Ask yourself about your own apathy. Have a sense of courage and independence, but then articulate ways that you may have contributed to the lack of connection.
Find something that you can agree on, that you both want more of. Do something you’ve never done before. Then, create a big space of possibilities of how you can make this happen together. You will feel empowered and discover accomplishment, and fortitude, and life will become exciting and stimulating again. Courage implies the willingness to try new things and stimulat4es energy for growth and reward. This is a great day for new beginnings!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 129 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.