What is being steadfast?
A fulfilling life isn’t about what you’re getting but what you are willing to give. Have you thought about the gifts you are giving to those you love? Think beyond tangible gifts that you wrap with bows and ribbons, and think about the treasure of safety and security. We like to think that being “steadfast” is invaluable and is one of the most generous and valuable gifts you could give. Typically, the word “steadfast” isn’t used on a day-to-day basis, but its definition describes a beautiful relationship.
Definition of Steadfast:
“A firm loyalty and unswerving dedication. Immovable, irrefutable, unchangeable, unalterable, and completely and utterly dependable and determined. Convinced that what I am doing is the right thing, and I refuse to ever give up.”
Commitment says: “I have come into this relationship to lay down my life so that you will have life.” Being steadfast makes you trustworthy and safe. What does it take to give this incredible gift to those you love?
A decision. Decide the importance of being steadfast, and resolve that you will make whatever sacrifice it takes to be “that person”. Count the cost and make the choice.
Asking. Ask your spouse, your child, your parent, whoever you have decided to give this gift to, and ask the important question - when do you feel most safe with me?
Prioritizing. After knowing what makes them feel safe, you adjust everything to make sure that you’re nurturing security for them.
Considering their needs as more important than your own. Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”
If this sounds challenging don’t lose heart. You were never meant to do this by yourself! You are a human being that has hard days, gets tired and isn’t perfect. In order to live a generous and selfless life, you need help, and that is exactly where God meets you.
When you confess your need for God, He meets you, and even better, He loves you. You can’t give away something that you don’t have in your hands. Imagine giving a tangible present with those bows and ribbons, it must be in your possession before you could ever give it away!
It’s the same with steadfastness. Another word for steadfastness is faithfulness. The only one who has never failed in being completely and utterly and perfectly faithful and steadfast is God Himself. He is faithful to you. Faithfulness is His very character. This is personal. He has never left your side, and He has never stopped pursuing you. Receive His gift of faithfulness that He is freely offering. And to make it official, simply say “Thank you, God.” As you live and rest in His steadfast love, you now have something to give to those you love.
Relying on God and living in a daily relationship with God is your source. Remember this: When you love, you never lose. Be generous with the gift of being steadfast and reap the benefits of harmony, peace, and joy!
Hear more about this topic on Episode 26 of All About Relationships Podcast with Bob and Audrey.